Spent last week in Melbourne, to help prepare for my mates wedding, the reception was held in Carousel near the lake in Albert Park. In a word – beautiful. Being part of the bridal party, I was eventually asked to do a speech. Rather than balk at the prospect of speaking to an audience, I was very excited by the opportunity given to me. Unlike most people I revel in the moment to speak to an audience. Now, don’t get me wrong, I still get nervous, however call me vain or conceited even naïve, but I quite enjoy receiving compliments from people about my speech performance. So the benefit of receiving compliments far outweighs any nervousness or apprehension I might feel towards making the speech.
I spent a good 4 days drafting the speech, right up till the night before the wedding, in fact I was wide awake at 3am in the morning trying to make the last final edits to the speech. When I write my speech, I write the whole thing out, and I mean everything. I find that as I am reading the words in my head, it reinforces it into my memory that little bit more each time and I find that helps me immensely. However when I am making the speech I don’t simply look down at what I wrote and read it out, instead I act it out. That shift in perspective makes the world of difference, because it allows you to still ad lib and improvise on the spot if need be but you are not tied to simply what you wrote on paper.
Rehearsing the speech is a must. Reading the speech in my head is a form of rehearsing. As such I basically was rehearsing the speech from the very moment I started writing the speech to the very moment I finished it. Hence I basically rehearsed it for a good 4 days as well.
My speech was not intended to be funny, but I did get a few laughs. The main aim of my speech was simply to pay tribute to my good mate.
So here is a transcript of my speech, I hope this may be of use to someone looking for ideas in writing a groomsman tribute speech –
<Previous speaker finishes>
Thanks _____, unfortunately I’m not going to be able to match the same emotional outpouring as given to you by _____ , but I’ll do my best
For those whom I haven’t met, my name is ______, it is an honor to be part of this beautiful bridal party. The maids look gorgeous, _____ is stunning, and _____ well, lets just say that someone has definitely picked up tonight.
Ok, so I’m here to talk about the man/spiritual brother I’ve known since high school, 15 years in fact and as a side note we share the same birthday. For most people their first impression of _____ probably falls in this sequence.
<Pause> Did I just meet the hairiest Asian ever? Followed by…
<Pause> I think he works as a comedian …
As you are all aware _____ has the gift of the gab and is quite the serial joker. The irony for me however, is that our friendship was galvanized through a series of hardships and mishaps. Most notably in our early entrepreneurial pursuits during our younger years. Stabs at the roulette table included. I won’t go into details but needless to say we weren’t the smartest men in the room back then, but over the many things we tried and failed it would be quite tragic if it wasn’t so funny and this is why I love the guy. Even in trying times and setbacks, he has the ability and the courage plus the gumption to take a step back, look at the bigger picture and have a good laugh about it and believe me it makes a world of difference. Yes he likes to joke around, but behind that funny demeanor is always an ounce of seriousness. This is what I have come to recognize and respect. So I guess what I am saying is if you scratch a little deeper, you will find a man who is very level headed, confident, deeply committed to family (and this is most obvious with the way he engages with children), and very generous to those around him. He may be a little irreverent sometimes, but believe you me, he does not take fools lightly. Therefore I suspect this audience I am speaking to must be of a very high caliber and from what I’ve seen I don’t doubt it one bit.
Most nights you can’t fault his comical genius. When he is on target, all pistons are firing and I mean all pistons ____, but tonight ain’t every night. If you pay attention to the man himself right now you will catch that rare glimpse of him in serious contemplation yet behind that, his comical mini me is half-cocked, ready to launch into one of his many polished and funny one liners . He’s probably a little confused right now, but that’s understandable, it was an epic day today, 37 degrees and we all had to suit up for the whole day. That’s right _____, marriage is no joke. Thankfully _____ is your perfect saving grace.
How do I now you are both right for each other. Over the many years I have known him, many have availed themselves to him, but none have ever captured his attention and imagination like you _____have. The only time I have ever seen _____ anxious was when he told me about his courtship with _____. This says a lot already not to mention the courtship itself which ____ has already talked about was like watching the final episode of the Amazing Race.
My friendship with ____ is really one for the ages, very low maintenance, I can honestly say we contact each other perhaps 3 or 4 times throughout the year, not much but rather than being a negative, this stands as a testament to the fact that our friendship is firmly established and cemented for life. We share similar values and beliefs and for that I want to thank you for being not just a good mate but a great mate. I could not have asked for more.
Finally to conclude, my allocated 2 minutes is well past, so far it has been full of praise for ____. This has been deliberate, as I have decided to leave the character assassination to the other boys. On that note I ask _____ to step up to the plate.
All in all I think it went for about three and a half minutes.